Brat Out Of Control
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Neglect as punishment? Good or Bad?
http://rogerothornhill.typepad.com/confessions_of_an_english/2006/11/silence.html
Confessions of an English gentleman explains that punishing a submissive with silence or neglect may not be the way to go, at least with some woman and I agree with him! In my last D/s realationship I was treated this way alot and the only thing it did to me was put me in such emotional pain that I withdrew from everyone and everything and slowly began to resent him! Neglecting a submissive can be the worst thing her Dom could do to her as far as punishment goes but I think it can be very determental to her well being and emotional health, especially if she was abused in her past! The old saying goes that negative attention is better than no attention, and if a submissive feels neglected in any sense she is going to seek any kind of attention she can get from her Dom, whether it be positive or negative! No one is perfect but I feel that it takes a special kind of guy to really know how to read his submissive and know what she needs without her having to tell him all the time, and if he has that down then he has it made! Just my opinion and my two cents! The link above this entry is Confessions of an english gentleman's explanation and I think he explains it well!
Confessions of an English gentleman explains that punishing a submissive with silence or neglect may not be the way to go, at least with some woman and I agree with him! In my last D/s realationship I was treated this way alot and the only thing it did to me was put me in such emotional pain that I withdrew from everyone and everything and slowly began to resent him! Neglecting a submissive can be the worst thing her Dom could do to her as far as punishment goes but I think it can be very determental to her well being and emotional health, especially if she was abused in her past! The old saying goes that negative attention is better than no attention, and if a submissive feels neglected in any sense she is going to seek any kind of attention she can get from her Dom, whether it be positive or negative! No one is perfect but I feel that it takes a special kind of guy to really know how to read his submissive and know what she needs without her having to tell him all the time, and if he has that down then he has it made! Just my opinion and my two cents! The link above this entry is Confessions of an english gentleman's explanation and I think he explains it well!
Labels: D/s relationships
Saturday, November 11, 2006
Extreme Spanking?
I took this quiz to see where I stand as far as what I feel I need ....it says EXTREME! For me D/s or DD is about pain, punishment and a detterent for bad behavior but I also like the fun side of D/s ...the erotic and sexual spankings are nice but on the other hand if discipline is needed then that has to be on the serious side! If I have done something wrong to disappoint MG ...or he is mad at me then I have to have a punishment spanking to release the "guilt" or I will just carry that inside of me and it will build up and I will end up resenting him for not punishing me! It's this need I have to feel punished when I deserve it and if the need is not taken care of then I will just be one big BRAT until it is taken care of. I have always been one who has wanted rules, guidance, and discipline and I don't think that will ever change....I am almost 33 years old and it has NOT changed yet! But taking this quiz was fun and quite interesting to see how I think!
Extreme: You believe that spanking is about pain, punishment, and domination. For you, spanking is not about recreation or fun at all - at least not for the person receiving it. Instead, you see it as a serious deterrent for bad behavior. You are not overly concerned about crying and markings since these things are very temporary, but the message of submission and discipline is long lasting indeed.
Take this quiz!
Labels: D/s relationships, Spanking Related
Sunday, November 05, 2006
Aching For A Spanking
I am so wanting to get spanked today! You would think that I have had enough of it being that I got a disciplinary session last weekend with a good friend of mine but it's not that same as when MG spanks me and I think that is what the craving is ....I want him to spank me yet I can't have that because of the 1109 distance between us therefore I have to wait and it's been eight months to long! I miss him a whole lot and I am depressed alot because of it! I try to think positive and know that we soon will be togather but it seems like it is taking forever to happen :( I am just sad that he can't be here with me or I can't be there with him! And this picture above is exactly the position I would love to be in for him ...mmmmm :)
Labels: Spanking Related
Thursday, November 02, 2006
I Love Lucy
Tonite I got to watch the episode where Lucy gets spanked for overspending her money and then trying to hide it from her husband by lying by ommission. It is a great episode and I have probably watched it a hundred times and I still love watching it! Back then men were expected to keep thier wives in line and sometimes it took a spanking just to do that, hmmmm I am not much different than Lucy was lol
Today DD or D/s is looked upon as sick or the people who practice the lifestyle as crazy but in reality I think that we are the sane ones. I personally know several couples who practice DD in thier marriage and they all swear that if it were not for the DD thier marriages would have not lasted as long as they have and I believe that. But this episode tonite reminded me of how normal I am wanting DD and/or D/s in my relationship with MG.
Labels: Spanking Related
Wednesday, November 01, 2006
My Goals- Displayed on the blog!
I decided to post this really neat Joe's Goals thing on my blog except it allows you to personalize it and create positive and negative goals. Of course it helps you to avoid the negative goals and improve on the positive goals and god knows I need help on both! I thought that I would even put some D/s goals in there that are very negative and I need to break those lol...won't MG be so proud of me lol :) It also allows you to put a log on there for different things too...I put my water intake and counting my blessings to start so we will see how this works. Hopefully for the good and it's a positive start for me!
Labels: Goals